A rather unpleasant event happened today. But like most crises, many lessons are learnt. Basically, one friend of mine who had been borrowing money from many people borrowed again. And the new creditors were shocked to learn that he was in such a huge debt, and having so many problems.

I shant describe the problems as they are confidential. But today we met up to confront and discuss solutions to the problem. Well, we hope that things do change, but I was really impressed with my friend.

Probably because he’s older (he’s 27), he approached the problem in a very mature manner. His knowledge of how the organization (the Navy) worked and how to help my friend is simply amazing. Moreover, the way he put across was v sincere and well, convincing. By the way, he’s a grassroot leader, and after hearing from him, I realised that the grassroot leaders and the MPs are doing q a bit. Just that we do not know. And that most people are very unwilling to approach them for help.

After looking my friend, and hearing opinions from other people (well, everyone was chipping in their ten cents’ worth), I realize that there are some distrust about those “professional help” that is available. Some prefers to solve problems within themselves, rather than approaching superiors or more senior people for advice. Because of the fear of reprisal or possible punishment.

Well, advice from the professionals or from senior ppl is definitely more feasible than those from friends (unless the professionals are your friends lah). Though they may be more distant, they’ve seen many more similar cases and know more resources. Moreover, professionals can dedicate more time to helping. Most likely than not, their success rate at helping people is more than other peoples’.

Shit. I’m getting v preachy. While the quote on this blog says that the cause and solution to a problem is oneself, the biggest help one can give oneself is to be honest about the problem and seek help for it.